Here’s 16 common sense tips from an recent bride you might not think of until it’s too late. She includes practical and emotional suggestions sure to save you time and lower your stress. See how many make sense to you!
16 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Planned My Wedding
Originally published by Jessica Booth on October 31, 2018 for thisisinsider.com
Being engaged is a really happy time in your life, but planning a wedding can make that time a lot more stressful. Trying to put together a huge party that makes your wedding dreams come true and won’t leave you in debt is overwhelming and can sometimes even feel impossible. You’ll also get a lot of advice thrown at you, but there are some things people forget to bring up.
As someone who recently got married and spent a year and a half planning a (successful!) wedding, I can tell you that there are a few things you absolutely need to keep in mind throughout the entire process, even if you haven’t heard about them already. These will keep you calm and relaxed, which is the attitude you want during this busy time.
Don’t book vendors or make big decisions too early on.
In most parts of the country, you need to book vendors (especially the big ones, like your venue) a year or more in advance in order to get what you want. Keep that in mind, but also don’t book too early.
Once you’ve booked your vendors, stop looking at wedding inspiration as much as possible.
There’s no need to keep looking up photographers once you sign a contract with someone. And once you’ve bought a wedding dress, don’t keep looking at new styles.
Look up the time of the sunset on your wedding night.
It’s the best light for outdoor photos. But it’s also good to know if you plan on having the ceremony, cocktail hour, or the reception outside.
Number your RSVP cards to keep track of guests.
Guests are supposed to write their name on the card, but a lot of guests actually forget to do that … so all you get back is a blank card that says they’re coming or they can’t make it. Put a little number on the back of each card, then assign that number to a guest, so you know exactly who the card belongs to.
Make a list of the portrait photos you want your photographer to take, but don’t go overboard.
Your photographer isn’t a mind-reader. You might think they know which portrait photos (like photos with your family) are important, but they don’t know what’s important to you unless you tell them.
Set up all the tips and money beforehand and designate someone as the money person.
Stop worrying about the small details.
But trust me: the day of the wedding, you will not notice the little details or even the bigger ones. The only things people will remember is if they had a good time if the food was good and if the overall vibe was nice.
Skip the traditional stuff you aren’t into.
This is your wedding, and you can, and should, do what you want, not what others expect.
These are tips worth considering as you plan your wedding. They’re intelligent and practical. Best of all, there are more! To see the full list and maybe more that make sense or fit for your wedding, go to 16 things I wish someone told me before I planned my wedding