Without a doubt, the most memorable weddings are the ones that are most authentic. The ones that leave the guests saying “That was so you!” With all the wedding traditions to choose from, make sure your wedding best reflects you. Do you love traditions and can’t wait to honor as many as possible or are you so over traditional weddings that you you bristle at the thought of a bouquet toss or money dance. If so, take a look at these seven alternatives to traditions that may just not be ‘you’.
7 Alternatives to Common Wedding Traditions
Originally published on April 19, 2017 by Megan Grant for Bustle
Spring is here, and you know what that means: Wedding season is upon us. If you’re planning your nuptials and realize that more conventional standards aren’t really your style, there are plenty of alternatives to common wedding traditions to choose from. That’s the beautiful thing about weddings: You can choose what makes you happiest and best suits your personality.
In recent years, brides-to-be are getting more daring when it comes to nixing wedding traditions. In an article in Huffington Post, Sara Margulis, cofounder of registry site Honeyfund, says that Millennials in particular have changed the wedding game, wanting something simpler and on a more realistic budget. Some traditions — such as wearing a veil, the bride’s family’s responsibility for footing the bill, and giving out wedding favors — have even been deemed outdated by many.
This doesn’t mean these are things you should shy away from, of course; weddings are about personal choices, and your special day should be a reflection of you and your partner. That being said, if you feel like you keep hitting dead ends in your wedding planning and want try a different take on the event, don’t feel pressured into sticking with convention. There are countless ideas for how you can switch things up — here are some other options for common wedding traditions.
Try A Different Gemstone
We’ve always known diamonds to be the jewel of choice for the ring; but there are so many options out there. Millennials have been opting for other gems (or forgoing the ring altogether) for any of a number of reasons — whether it’s wanting to save money for other big life expenses (house, kids, etc.), or simply because there are so many stones other than diamonds that are simply gorgeous. If you’re not a very traditional person (me!), then maybe a diamond isn’t for you. My now-fiance slipped a rose quartz and aquamarine ring on my finger, and it’s absolutely perfect.
Nix Wedding Presents
Gift-giving during weddings really started as early as 3,000 BC with the tradition of a bride price or dowry, but it’s undergone many changes since then. Notably, in the 1920s, department stores invented the gift registry, and things have never been the same since. In more recent years, gifts like kitchenware and linens have become pointless, since more couples are living together before marriage and already have these things by the time they tie the knot. Whether you don’t really need anything or just don’t want to go the wedding present route, though, what are some other options?
For one, you could ask your guests to donate to a charity instead. They were going to spend money either way — why not put it toward a good cause? Another option is to ask them to help fund your wedding or honeymoon, and that’s where sites like Honeyfund comes in. Think of it as crowdsourcing for your wedding! With the newer trend of preferring experiences over things, asking guests to help send you on a wonderful trip might be the perfect alternative to physical gifts.
If you’re non-traditional but stumped on alternatives, read all 7 Alternatives to Common Wedding Traditions and see if any fit your style!